Job Interviews: The new first date

You spend hours in front of the mirror deciding what to wear, analyzing your options and asking yourself, how do I look in this? Is this color too bright? Knowing how important first impressions are, you rehearse conversations starters, your smile and perhaps your handshake. You are nervous and excited at the same time because the possibility of a great future is within reach, yet there are so many unknown factors that determine whether this will be a prefect match.

This may sound like preparation for a first date, but what I’m describing is a typical night before a job interview. Interestingly, the rules apply to both, and that is why interviewing for a job is a lot like a first date.

In both situations you show up looking your best and on your best behavior. To make a good impression you exhibit your best qualities to the other person. So as they begin asking you questions about yourself your replies are positive, upbeat and put you in the most positive light.

Chances are that you have done some homework too, finding out about the other person’s interests and qualities. Not only does this show your interest in them, but it’s also your time to determine it THEY are what you are looking for. Interviews, like first dates, work both ways, the match has to be good for both parties. Considering the amount of time we spend at work, it truly is an investment of our time and future; you want to make sure the company is going to offer you the professional environment, challenges and opportunities that will keep you active and engaged. We all have our mental checklist of qualities that we are looking for in a mate and an employer, so whether the interrogation is over dinner or across a desk the interviewer is deciding whether you meet their requirements, and vice a versa.

The following is my advice for scoring a second interview . . . or a second date:

• Dress to impress
The key is appropriateness for the occasion. In the case of an interview that usually means a suit, but it can vary among companies and industries. Do not wear any clothing, accessories or fragrances that are overpowering or distract the interviewer from what you are saying. Your clothes should be clean, ironed and fit properly.

• Don’t look desperate
Showing up too early can read desperation. At an interview it can make hiring managers uncomfortable or feel rushed. It’s best to arrive 15-20 minutes early; this sends the message that you are punctual yet appropriate. Arriving late is a definite DON’T! It is disrespectful and irresponsible and will hurt your first impression, and most likely destroy your chances of a second interview . . . or second date.

• Maintain the mystery
On a first date, you would never announce that you snore or bite your finger nails. These truths tend to come to light as a relationship progresses, and by then they can be classified a quirks rather then character flaws. The same goes for an interview. While of course you never want to misrepresent yourself, do not display all of your negatives, but rather highlight the positives. Always display your greatest attributes and if you lack experience in a specific area, acknowledge it and present your skills that are closely related or your ability to learn quickly.

• Let them know you had a good time
If you feel that you hit it off and are interested in continuing the relationship, let them know that you had a good time and that you look forward to seeing them again. Companies are more willing to offer the job to someone they think is interested in them. Before walking away, take the time to let the interviewer know that you enjoyed meeting with them, like the job and why you think you would be a great fit. And follow up with a thank you note, chivalry is not dead!

Although our personal and professional lives are very different, dating and interviewing are both about people trying to impress one another. I hope my tips are helpful in your job search, or love connection whichever you are searching for!